Tuesday, 26 June 2012

Happy 19th Wedding Anniversary, Mr Grumpy!

I've always done things a bit differently. Whilst most of my friends were at uni, travelling or partying I took a different path. At 17, I met Mr Grumpy. By 19, we were engaged. At 20, we were married. At 21, I gave birth for the first time. By 25, I was a mum of 2. The media tells me this is wrong. That we are doomed to fail. Yet today as I type Mr Grumpy and I are celebrating our 19th wedding anniversary. 
(Good lord we were young)

I know we're lucky. Particularly, with me being ill. Divorce rates are bad enough, but add in illness or injury, and divorce rates sore. I am grateful everyday, when I read about the marriage breakdowns on the forums, that Mr Grumpy is by my side. I don't know if I could do this every day without him.

He's not just my husband. He's the father of my children. My lover. My best friend. And now my carer.  As corny as it sounds, he is the love of my life.

That's not say, it's all been beer and skittles. We've had ups and downs, and fought like cats and dogs. But in the end, and when it really mattered, we've always been there for each other.

The past six years that I've been ill have changed and tested our relationship in many ways. I'm not the person I was before. I know I'm damn hard work at times. Our plans for the future were turned upside down and life went into free fall for a while. Illness does that. It changes you emotionally and psychologically. it challenges your relationships with the ferocity of a pit bull. It changes you both mind, body and soul. Nothing can prepare you for the reality of that challenge.

And yet despite it all, he goes out of his way to make me feel loved and cherished. He looks at me like I'm still 17 and makes me feel worthy and special, even when I feel it least. Whatever has happened during the day, no matter how sick I am, when he holds my hand as we go to sleep I never fail to feel safe and loved. What more can you ask for?

So happy anniversary Mr Grumpy. The road may not have been quite so straight as we planned. And there may be a bucket load of pot holes. But I am glad you are by my side as we stumble along.


I have written about Mr Grumpy a few times over the years. He's a pretty good guy when it comes down to it.
Chick Flick Moment
You Get Less For Murder
Twenty Years

Michelle :)

18 comments:

  1. This is such a lovely post :) I'm glad to hear you've had someone walking with you down the narrow roads. Happy Wedding Anniversary to you both x x x

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    1. Thanks Olivia. I definitely feel lucky :)

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  2. Happy anniversary! You are still just as gorgeous, and props to mr grumpy for being one of the good guys:)

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    1. Aw thanks. Yeah he is one of the good guys. :)

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  3. happy anniversary michelle, hope bob left you for the day. x

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    1. Thanks Em. Unfortunately Bob hit with a vengeance, so we had a romantic dinner of chicken and chips from the local charcoal chicken shop, whilst sitting on the couch. Will hopefully do something this weekend.

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  4. Finally got grabbed some Wifi! While at a McSh*ts. My darlings are playing. It's 102 here. Ugh. They have indoor play area here. No outdoor play here today. I have been missing your blog dearly! I so miss my internet! Your blog won't open on my cell. :( I LOVE this post. High five to Mr. Grumpy. Made me smile reading this post my friend. I soooooo needed it too. It's hot today, I'm tachy, and missing my hubby. Thanks for picking my spirits up!

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    1. Man no internet, I shudder at the thought. I wish I could send you some of our cool weather, it's a miserable Winter's day here. Glad I could pick up your spirits it's hard when you're missing your hubby. Big big hugs babe. xx

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  5. You are such a beautiful couple- I wish you many many many more years of joy, love and peace together. You set a great example!xx

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  6. So there is hope? Thanks for making me smile, and Happy Anniversary! Beautiful wedding pictures, btw!

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    1. There's always hope. Glad I could make you smile :)

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  7. This soulful post strikes such a cord with me, as I too was married very young (age 20, after a whirlwind romance of about half a year) by modern standards. I was already chronically ill at the time, but my health continued to take drastic nosedives in the years following our marriage, and we have both long accepted that there is absolutely no certainty about where the future will take my health (granted this is technically true of everyone, but it's especially so when you're duking it out with multiple chronic illnesses).

    I am elated that you are your husband have had nineteen years together and truly hope that you'll have decades more together.

    ♥ Jessica

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    1. Thank you for your lovely comment Jessica. It's nice to hear of another 'young' marriage. It's seems we have a bit of a similar story as my health has been poor since the early years of our marriage too, although worse over the past 6. You are so right there is no certainty about the future. Sometimes you just have to grab on try your best and have hope xx

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  8. Happy 19th Anniversary to you both! It does help to have someone by your side, to lean on in rough times and enjoy during the good ones. Sounds like you have a great husband! :)

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